Resolutions are ridiculous. None of them end up being permanent, we all wait for this time of year, make a list of things we want to do or change and they sometimes last about a month. Don’t wait to make a change because the more you don’t do something the less likely you’re going to change your habits.
I get that sometimes they do work, but everyone has those standard thoughts of joining the gym, losing weight, stop drinking or quit smoking. There at tonnes more but you have to really make sure you’re in the right frame of mind because these are the things that don’t just change overnight. For me at least the exercise and losing weight thing I may actually have under control (hurray for me!). To me, these are futile resolutions, if people actually use these resolutions and stick to them then I admire you. I have used them in the past and they haven’t stuck but at least starting before the New Year and knowing I have to be good throughout this period made it a lot easier.
Instead of resolutions, I thought about how 2018 can help me, I graduated in 2015, spent 4 months travelling in 2016 and tried, without success to find a career path throughout 2017. I have time, it’s the first day of 2018 and I have spent the day relaxing, reading and watching catch-up television. This is not my plan for the whole year but in the run up to Christmas I was completely drained, exhausted both physically and mentally, so this year I would like to have time for me, this might mean a day or it could mean just a couple of hours. To relax, read a book and not always feel like to have me time I need to sleep. It’s not a resolution, it’s a must, to feel like I have time for myself and not to be rushing around after everyone else.
Following on from this is books. I want to read more this year, I can still go very long periods of time without reading and I dislike that about myself. I was given a kindle a few years ago and in New Zealand it was a life saver, but also last year I started picking it up a bit more, not only using the Kindle app on my phone for when I ever went out anywhere but also using my actual Kindle before bed (blue light limitation and all that). I’ll admit sometimes the books I read are a bit of a mixture but a book is a book at the end of the day and if I’m reading then I’m fulfilling what I set out to do.
My book list so far –
- Turtles All The Way Down by John Green
- His Dark Materials by Phillip Pullman
- Mansfield Park by Jane Austin
- American Gods by Neil Gaiman
- Good Omens by Terry Pratchett and Neil Gaiman
- The Gun Seller by Hugh Laurie
If anyone has any suggestions, feel free to throw them my way.
I believe that 2018 also should be the encouragement of travelling, to see friends, and to have fun, as I’m still in my early 20s I need to enjoy everything before I settle down. I want to use this year to make that happen, to have plans, to see the world, to find more adventures because I’ve spent the last year in turmoil and that’s not how it should be.
A final want for this year is to write more, to keep an updated blog, be it through baking, achievements, weight loss stories or other ideas. I want to start writing a story, to be able to complete something over the year, I mean it doesn’t even have to be a fictional thing, it could be non-fiction, I just want to produce something. Let’s say this one is a goal, to hopefully produce something over a year.
Maybe I’m wrong about resolutions because I already do the most popular resolutions. I do however believe that you should do something that is going to make your life happier. To help you grow as a person and make sure you can do it. Make sure that you’ve got your mindset in order before even attempting to do anything otherwise you’re just wasting your time. Clear your head, have a positive outlook and plan your way through it.
I wish everyone a fruitful, positive and happy 2018, may it bring you all that you hope for.
(As a marker for next year, I’m hoping to lose a couple more stone before then so a selfie is in order to be able to tell the difference)